Do these sound familiar? Do you feel like you are working way too hard to keep your relationship alive? Is it really alive, even after all of your hard work? Hey, sometimes we’ve got to call it quits. It’s a very difficult thing to do. And you just might not know if it’s time. You may not be noticing (or could be ignoring) some definitive signs that point to the looming end of your relationship. Here’s 8. I’d say cut your losses and break it off now if you can answer yes to 3 of them

Remember the endless texting in the beginning? Remember that feeling you got when you would see his name pop up on your screen right after a text notification? Compare that to the way things are now. If you’re experiencing extra long wait times for replies and see that it’s becoming a pattern, there may be something wrong. We make time for our love lives. Period. And if excuses become a consistent pattern you can bet there is a problem (even if the excuses are good).

The weekend is coming. You’re conditioned to Friday night being date night. You start to get ready and he hits you with, “honey, I haven’t seen Stefan and Phillip in a long time. I think I am going to hang out with them. We can go out another night.” And then you wait and wait and wait for that “other night”…and it never comes. Has his fighting style gotten more aggressive? Are you hearing him say things he’s never said before? He could be showing you a side of him you’ve never seen.

It gets to the point where it’s all up to him to make arrangements to see each other. You’re waiting by the phone. You’re not planning anything until you hear from him…and then you don’t hear from him. You start to notice YOU don’t even care what he does! He can tell you anything and it just flies over your head while your eyes roll. That’s when you’ve had enough…when you’ve already checked out. Hard work should pay off and if it doesn’t, you’re wasting your time. Head for the hills!